Small Steps to Great Parenting: An Essential Guide for Busy Families by Dr. Kalanit Ben-Ari

Author:Dr. Kalanit Ben-Ari [Ben-Ari, Dr. Kalanit]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2018-07-03T04:00:00+00:00

The “I worked hard!” way

Once a day or once a week, maybe at the end of the day, celebrate hard work by playing this game with your child. It goes like this:

Parent: ‘I worked hard today/this week for —’ (something you feel proud of yourself for)

Parent and child (loudly and with great energy): ‘Well done, mummy/daddy, well done!’ (give energetic congratulations and hugs)

Child: ‘I worked hard today/this week for —’ (whatever they are proud of)

Parent and child (loudly and with great energy): ‘Well done, Ethan! Well done!’ (energetic congratulations and hugs)

Here, the emphasis is on the effort, not the accomplishment. For example, I can be proud of working hard to be on time, working hard to understand a problem at work, working hard to concentrate on a task, or working hard to make sure I have time for myself. You will notice the first couple of times you do this, your children will imitate you. But with practise and time, they will bring their own ideas and achievements.

What I especially like about this game is that, when it’s part of the family routine, we all look for positive things during the day to mention later, which means we increase our awareness for appreciation. It’s also a great way to encourage effort, rather than results. It acknowledges that your child might work really hard during a tennis game and still lose.

Celebrating their effort and hard work builds a positive self-image and encourages them to work harder. Another great way to end a day!

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